HOW TO BE A REAL AND TRUE FRIEND?
How to be a real and true friend?
Friendship is that part of life without which life is just dull and most importantly, incomplete.
It's that bond which is treasured the most.
I always remember this song when I talk about friendship, "you can count on me like 123 and I'll be there, and I know I can count on you like 432 and you'll be there. For that's what friends are supposed to do, oh yeah."
Yes, friendship is really very special, and a true friend, a soul friend, matters a lot in life.
Often we mistake ourselves about what exactly is an actual friend means. We want to be a part of someone's joyous celebrations but usually end up ignoring them at their bad times.
We want to be someone's "Best Friend Forever" but usually fail to be one.
Let me give you a dimension on being a true friend.
Firstly, we must listen to everything patiently. We must be calm enough to listen to what they have to say.
We should realize someone who calls us up in their bad times, feels safe sharing their bad days with us. Being with someone at their best won't make us a trusted friend. Whereas being at their worst defines the meaning of a trusted friend.
To be a constant in someone's life, we need to understand. We need to be a secret keeper. Keeping their words to ourselves ensures loyalty and care for them.A true friend isn't the one, who helps a Friend out of something wrong through material means but, the one who lets them know that they are wrong.
A soul friend becomes the reason they change positively. The reason for their healthy growth. At times we need to be their family their pillars of strength and serenity.
Go crazy together at times. Do stuff that could get you close to each other. Share your feelings your thoughts. Laugh out at things and cry out your heart too. Make sure you make them feel home. Help each other triumph.
Be not each other's sidekicks. Be each other's protagonist.
True friends are those who don't talk daily even though they meet up once a few weeks they still are the same. The bond is never changed. Every time they meet, they have a mountain of memories to be shared. They are each other's painkillers. They know what toxicants us, and what can heal us.
A true friend is a doctor of the soul. They bandage our wounds with their words of love. A soul friend's shoulder can bear the burden of our tears. Their hands are always there to wipe them. They are still with you to make you smile at your worst times. To shout at you. To console you. To keep you comforted.
They are that piece of art that God created to comfort us to understand us when our families fail to do so. They are our saviors as well as a partner in crimes. A true friend is always more important than anyone. Maybe even a lover. Perhaps that's why it's often said the first step to love is friendship.
Most of the times, a girl's soul friend is a guy. And a guy's soul friend is a girl. Well, you are lucky if you have both of them as your true one!
Real friends can also turn into the ones we fall in love with. That bond seems so pure that we eventually fall in love with them. And that love which begins with the purity of a bond like that of a friend can thrive a lifetime.
A true friend can be anything for us. At times our parents. Our sibling. And at times it can be our twin too. A part of our life's journey that's the most beautiful and cherished.
Well, your best friend can either be known by everyone at home. Or can even be a complete secret. No Matter what treasure them.
Remember if money attracts you, it isn't a friendship that you are fulfilling it's your greed. If you chill around with someone just because they have money. And leave them once they don't have anything. You need not call yourself a friend. For a greedy person can never be someone's true one.
If you lie to your friend, even about the smallest things. Never call yourself a best friend. Lying to each other will only destroy your bond. It can ruin your friendship within no time.
Never speak badly about your friend forth another person. Remember that, it will give a reason for people to break the beautiful bond you share with your soul one. You have a problem, you say it directly to your friend. For a direct complaint is better than an indirect concern. You need to be careful about your friendship. The tiniest misunderstanding can ruin beautiful friendships which had taken years to make a heavenly bond.
A true friend is one who will never leave our side no matter what. We may ignore them, but when we need them, they will be there right there waiting for us. That person who remains for you remember is a real gem.
If you ever get into a fight with your friend, keep your anger aside. Even though you are not wrong, apologize. Nothing is higher than the bond of real friends. Never let it be ruined. Eleanor Roosevelt said it well, "Many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart."
Life is miserable without such souls. They make the atmosphere around us lively. They make us feel happy just by their mere presence. Their glimpse makes our day. It's weird how we, at times, fail to recognize who truly care for us. Who truly stays. Be there for who you care for you, no matter if they don't value you today. Tomorrow they'll know your worth.
We know it's difficult when we have no one to listen to us. To understand us. So if someone needs you, try being their one true friend.
In this world where everyone is busy breaking hearts. Be that soul of calmness and peace in someone's life. Celebrate each other's achievements and failures.
Last but not least. If you're trying to be that soul friend, never expect it in return. Not everyone can make themselves as selfless as a true friend should be.
"Be a true gem every person wishes to have."
"Be their 'FIDUS ACHATES"
Framed by - Shaista khanam sky
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